I wounder if there could be life out there past the stars?

"If aliens visit us, the outcome would be much as when Columbus landed in America, which didn't turn out well for the Native Americans." -Stephen Hawking

   So I was sitting at home watching Doctor Who and I was thinking, what if there is other life out there? Space is so huge that we cannot even scarcely fathom the scale of how big space is. How can we be so naive to think that we are so special to be the only life in the universe? We are a pin prick to our galaxy, and our galaxy is a pin prick to space. According to the best estimates of astronomers there are at least one hundred billion galaxies in the observable universe. Astronomers using NASA data calculate that in our galaxy alone there are at least 8.8 billion Earth-sized planets that are not too hot or not too cold and circle stars that are just like our sun. So if there are just that many plants in one of the one hundred billion galaxies think of the possibilities of some sort of life out there. And what do you consider life? Our concept of life can be totally off too. Just thinking about this while writing is making my head hurt. Now we can be the only ones, who knows for sure? We will never know until one day a big headed green alien dude steps on our planet and says', "hey!"

Well that's all I have to say about that. Just a small little thing I wanted to talk about tonight, may venture back on this topic again someday. well off to bed and hope for good dreams. Maybe that will be my next post? 

Thoughts on love

"Immature love says, 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you."- Erich fromm.
           One day I was sitting in Applebee's after work drinking a beer, now I happen to see this young couple kissing and being really cute together. This thought crossed my mind; what if we love because we like the idea of being in love and not actually truly being in love?

          When you are in love with love, you are in the relationship for its benefits, and you cower away from more difficult aspects. I mean, you don’t address them or you don’t go about dealing with things in a healthy, respectful way. Frankly, you don’t care as much about the person as you do what they can do for you. Your fantasies about being with them revolve around how they make you feel, what they do, what they say, and how wonderful it is for you. It’s showing that person off to the world on dates, it’s getting to update your Facebook relationship status. That’s being in love with love.

        When you’re really in love with someone, you want them: the good, the bad, the ugly. You come back at the end of the day. You are as accepting and nonjudgmental as you possibly can be. You don’t want to change them. You aren’t dreaming of the day when they’ll finally come into themselves or saying, oh, they look so much better when they put themselves together. You’re not scrolling to a better Facebook picture to show your friends. You’re not condescending. You don’t think their passions are a waste of time.
        You’re not dreaming of a bright future more than you are dreaming of your next date, because being in love with someone means they make you happy right now. If you have to constantly resort to thinking about the great things that could come or dreams you’ve had that they could fulfill, you’re not in the moment with them. You’re just looking to see how they can be a role in your life.
        When you are in love with love, you leave as soon as things start to get tough. You are waiting for the day someone becomes what you want them to be because you aren’t happy with who they are right now. And that’s another thing: sometimes people just fit into the idea of what we thought we’d want in a partner, so we think we’re in love because all the checks on the list are marked off. Don’t settle for someone who happens to have the qualities you think you’d find endearing. Be with someone who is a cataclysmal force in your life, someone you want to work out issues with, someone you love just as they are now, someone on whom you don’t put any expectations, someone who makes you happy just because they are.

Hmmm just a unique perspective on love.